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I am in a relationship with a man who at times I believe is not the best person for me. He's been out of town most of the week and hasn't called once. I'm trying to find an answer to letting go. I want to get a sign from God that I can make it by myself; that I'm strong enough. I'm trying not to hurt but go on with my life, and I want God to fix it and to help me get over the nagging hurt inside. All of my life I've been thinking that I need a man to be there. I'm 44 now, and without one I feel lost. If I could just get an answer from God, I know that I'll be ok.
It sounds as if that man is just using you. You'd do well to dump him! I suspect that your problem may be co-dependency. A good book that may help you understand that is "Love is a Choice" by Hernfelt, Minirth & Meier, and you should be able to buy or order it at a Christian bookstore. If not, you may find other books on co-dependency at a bookstore.
You say that all your life you've felt you needed a man to be there. Well, I no longer have a man - but I have someone in my life who meets all my needs and fills me with love, peace, and joy. And that is Jesus Christ! He has given me a life worth living!
You need Him too! According to the Bible, the only way we can have a personal relationship with God and His Son Jesus is by receiving Jesus as our Savior. For God sent His Son Jesus into the world to pay the penalty on the cross for our sins, so that we could be forgiven, saved, and reconciled with God. For that, we need to receive Jesus Christ as our Savior.
Here is a website that can help you do that: Journey of Joy. I'm praying for you. In Christ's love, Dr. Muriel
Dr. Muriel Larson, author of many books and thousands of published writings and songs, is a professional Christian writer, counselor and speaker, and has taught at writers' conferences across the United States. She serves as an E-Mail counselor with Truthmedia. Her web site, "Advice From God's Word," lists many helpful articles alphabetically by their descriptive titles: http://advicedrmuriel.blogspot.com
